When you want to start an approach, the most efficient and natural way is to make situational observations. It does not look like it was a memorised line, which will put you in your head and not be present.

Make a simple observation about her, the situation, and the dynamic. Not only will it show the other person you pay attention, but it can also create intrigue.

Couple that with making a statement. When you first interact with someone on apps or even in real life, avoid asking questions as much as possible, as it is value-taking.

Make statements which can prompt her to correct or confirm what you guessed. This is more value-giving.

If you can open a loop, it's even better.

"You look like you are from [X country/area]."

"Tell me if I am wrong, but you are the Lululemon type."

"When I saw you, I was wondering if you naturally have a resting b*tch face or you just got dumped by your BF."

As you can see, there is a crescendo regarding the riskiness of your comment. Little tip: Use negative framing statements instead of positive ones; one prompts a response and an explanation more than the other (defensiveness creates investment as ego is involved), and it is not the latter, making her qualify to you, without asking a qualification question.

And you know what? It is less about what you say and more about the person's predisposition and how she perceives you. So, you can do something good, but if she is in a shit mood, it will fall flat, and say something terrible, and she may be in a good mood, she will entertain you longer. So, relax.

None are canned lines; they just came to me on the fly. The more you do it, the more natural it will become and the more confident you will become in improvising. And you will be surprised by what you can get away with.

Many guys struggle with the next step: " What am I following up with?" This depends on what she gives you.

Most of the time, you will have to carry the conversation by throwing threads and hoping she can bite at one of them. Then, it is about listening and bouncing off what she says.

Yes. LISTENING.

To non-salespeople, they think sales is about saying the right stuff. No, it is about listening to what the prospect tells you because they are giving you the key to the kingdom, should you pay attention. Once you do that, you will notice the conversation goes from 80-90% of you talking to something akin to 50-50.

So, we got the approach alright, and then you listen and pick up on what she says to make the conversation flow.

In between, you still have to carry on the conversation. So what do you do?

Use cold reads. You know women are solipsistic. Use that to your advantage and make an educated guess about her. My trick is to make general comments about women (don't worry; they think Not All Women are like that, so she will make it about herself) and sprinkle in some personal things.

Use her expressions or phrases as she will feel closer because you vibe with her mentality, semantics go a long way to create the illusion of connection.

Use something about her energy; make it positively skewed to her so that she is enticed to prove you right.

Or you can use something about how introverted or extroverted she is.

If you get it wrong, no big deal; you are not on Who Wants to be a Millionaire. Remember to use her ego to your benefit, not yours to your detriment. As long as she is engaged, it is a win.

Then, considering the situation (yours and what you established with her, alongside the engagement you have gained, whether or not you used the false time constraint to make her feel more comfortable talking to a stranger), you can try the instant date, or agree in principle to a further meetup and secure the number for logistical purposes.

It is really not that complicated. It is only complex if you make a big fuss about approaching someone because your ego gets in the way.