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What this scene shows is one of the darkest realities that many guys won’t be able to fathom:

When a girl sees you as so much above her, her self-esteem is nonexistent.

The feminine attached their value to the type of men they attract. Essentially, it is all outward-driven.

Which is ironic and is an oxymoron because it should be based on the “SELF”.

This is why guys become feminine with a girl they deem as “girlfriend material”, which is usually them indirectly saying that they are the one who they don’t usually get. This puts them in the situation where they are trying to overtly sell themselves to the girl, turning her off.

Subconsciously, the girl can feel that she is better than him and doesn’t like the guy because the energy he is giving off suggests approval-seeking, as he is aiming to extract value from her through their association.

The masculine burden is to be with a girl he does not want, so he does not fall for her and become weak in the process.

Don’t believe me?

Have you seen a girl not simp and accepted shit treatment from you or a guy when they felt they were punching?

The scene also shows another thing: you can be as big as a dick as you want, you can get away with almost everything, when she sees you above her.

And the blackest of pills is that mistreatment will turn them on much more than equal treatment or above-average treatment.

This is why we say ‘do less.’

Because it embodies their hypergamic needs and intrinsic low self-esteem for the right guy (according to them).

At the same time, they are followers, and they can only follow a leader (whether in bed or in life).

For her to see you as a leader, she has to be intimidated by you. There needs to be a value gap perception they have of you. And when guys get genuinely intimidated, it is not through some women’s accomplishments, but through their beauty. This is what masculine women who careermaxxx don’t get.

It is not about money; it is about gravitas.

Many men have money, but few have that charisma.

Scarcity draws value.

“How many times will you have a chance to sleep with a guy like me?”

Christian knows it very well when he says that.

When they say:

“I just wanted to fuck him, not relationship material.”

They subconsciously know they are not suitable for their survival needs because they will be too dependent upon him emotionally, and they won’t have the control necessary to extract what they need.

Why, when you are being a dick, she will give it away, no questions asked, because it triggers her unfiltered and raw sexual drive, unburdened by other, more logical and long-term considerations. When they are young, they are more likely to indulge in it because their outlook is short-skewed. As they get older, until they get a kid or two, the more logistics come into play, which is why they are willing to tolerate subpar sex with the provider. However, they also like to believe they can get and keep the person who holds both, but many of these women don’t qualify; instead, they settle for the person they can control and achieve their life goals. But that control is what generates that contempt and subsequent boredom.

They don’t know that in their 20s, they know that in their 30s. They make mistakes young to be guarded and have baggage late.

When you see an overly aware woman early on, be sure she has had her fair share of shrink sessions, following hard breakups or consistent mistreatments, because they would not care to dive into it otherwise.

Don’t pick up the pieces; you won’t get her at her best.

I have personally experienced this, when I would show empathy or good long-term prospects to the girl, while still applying game at the same time, it gave her mixed signals.

She either stopped halfway on the road to sex, despite handling last-minute resistance to reconsider it, because she could not put me in a box, and what she wants to portray to you is based on that box.

Another fact I have noticed is that outside of the girls who fall for the Dark Triad traits when young because it validates their low self-esteem, there are the women who were already married, and got a kid from it, and left the husband, want to (re)discover that phase, unbounded, but it comes from a different perspective.

Whereas young women want to taste the different ice creams, stick with the one with the most spice (aka the most entertaining) and seek a future with that guy (usually a first “toxic”/”narcissistic” boyfriend). When they get back on the market after a divorce, a kid, and not looking for anything serious, they are some of the most sexually daring women out there. Unbothered, through higher sexual confidence, they are happy doing things they would not have in their 20s, especially not with their husband if he only had the Mr Provider hat during her choosing. The main reason is that they ticked all their life boxes and want to have fun without any judgment; they are also more relaxed about life.

LESSON:

When logical and logistical considerations do not encumber her, her sexual leaning is one of submission that will, on occasion, border on humiliation, which she can only find in guys she finds herself highly attracted to, or one who intimidates her through dominance and masculinity. When it is, it is contrived by the impression she needs to give to her future husband or provider, who does not want to get the impression that she has learned the ropes of pure slagdom from others, so that he can underwrite a future for both of them.

This is why the most legit indicator of her genuine attraction to you is how much of a cunt you can be towards her and how much she is letting you get away with it.