Many men, especially white men, grow very insecure about their hairline or even their hair completely vanishing. It is something women have picked up on and will poke guys to see if they care what the women have to say about it.

Granted, it is also a legitimate preference for many of them to have a guy with hair.

This is why hair transplants are very popular nowadays.

However, how legitimate is the question of hair in your attractiveness as a man?

I have some affinity with the black pill and the looksmaxxxer crowd, because they uncovered key visual triggers that can kill or increase attraction.

However, the problem with them is that they take what women say too literally, thus seriously.

Most of them operate in a virtual and online world where facial and body aesthetics trump everything, which strengthens their confirmatory bias.

However, when one makes their sense of value codependent on the woman's approval of their looks, then what happens is a complete abdication of frame.

This is going to be problematic in the long run if they want a relationship, and even in the short run when they discover that trying to upgrade to Chad looks will at best get you quick sex, and if you don't get to Chad Status, you will still need to have a backbone with some level of game or charisma to pull.

So, provided you have upgraded to the look that will give you more options, you still need to address your mindset, which will be hampered by the insecurity that got you to invest in these looksmaxxing efforts.

You see the same problem with gymcells. It is not the hair, but it is not enough muscles. Throw them out in the real world, and they would mumble a few words in front of girls, because, for all their muscles, they did not grow those balls. And women don't teabag.

This is not to shit on looksmaxxxing as if you want genuine desire, it comes from looks (add charisma/aura as a plus), status and money are compensators when the looks department does not cut it.

However, you must fully appreciate that this is not the be-all and end-all. Like money being an amplifier for simping tendencies, the looks you improved will only have at best a superficial impact on your confidence, because it is solely reliant on the external feedback which got you to change how you come across.

There is nothing wrong with looksmaxxxing when your head is in the right place (no pun intended). Say you want to have pearly whites (as an indicator of status), that is no different from buying yourself a tailored suit.

Especially, if your image has an impact on your brand, if not your business. People are shallow, and you know it. It is good marketing. Or you just have really poor teeth, and this is something that needs to be addressed. Bad Teeth are like bad breath; it is off-putting. There is a difference between trying hard and being a slob.

Say you want a hair transplant, because your head shape is poor to rock the bald look, go for it. Or say you have a bald patch in the middle of your skull, and slicking your hair back like you used to, makes it look weird that you don't like it, and you feel it does not represent who you are. Go for it. See here, you do it for you, because it is available and because it is only reliant upon how you view yourself. Not because you got influenced by a bitch who tries to shame you because you are bald.

In the end, looksmaxxxing is like going to the gym (outside of the most extreme cosmetic procedures); it is about taking care of your appearance as a matter of self-respect and what you communicate to the world about you.

I never had any insecurities when I became bald (despite being mixed race, I had white man's hair), because I never appreciated what a hairline was, until a very hair-conscious white guy told me I was receding. Ignorance is absolute bliss sometimes. It happened around the 30-year-old mark, so I shaved, unlike many Frenchmen in the motherland who will keep the three remaining hairs fighting against one another after the Battle of the Somme. Thankfully, I had a good head shape, I was strong built, and I was 6'2. I didn't give it much thought. The only ballache of becoming bald for my lazy ass is now I have to shave more often instead of the customary every 6 weeks hairdresser appointment.

In terms of success, did I see much of a change from before to after? Using dating apps as a proxy, I was getting fewer matches, maybe around half or a third. However, they were much stronger buys than the ones before. I cast a narrower net, but it was a stickier one. A positive for the bald look was the polarising factor. No later, than a couple of days ago, I had a woman say that bald guys are her type. Either because of a movie star they really like, a masculine relative they cherish, or some people they look up to, a non-marginal amount of women will vibe with it. Sometimes, I even attract women who I am not their type (you would rather avoid these).

This is when I came up with the idea of archetypes. They were looking for a masculine or hypermasculine figure who would not be the typical effeminate pretty boy. So if you are a bald guy, you have to play The Rock Look, no pencil neck or narrow shoulders and physical frame, otherwise you look like a cancer patient, optics-wise. But also, you need to have more of a backbone, as anything weak will make you appear incongruent with your archetype.

In terms of success with women, my yearly numbers did not change; the type of girls did, but not by much. As I was more Black leaning with the lack of hair, some PAWGS (Phat Ass White Girls) started getting confident, thinking I was a brother who confused fat for thick. Being diplomatic in my rejections was key.

You can even manage to do ok with a bald look, with average height and some muscles.

Half of it is owning it; many bald guys don't until they don't give a fuck when they get older. If you own it, aka you are not insecure about it, you will even get with girls who will say "I don't usually go for bald guys" blablabla, but they will say something along the lines of "there is something about you that made me change my mind"...

You know what is even more scarce than a full set of hair past 35? A confident man doesn't get nervous or shit the bed in front of a good-looking woman, whether you're bald or not, won't matter. Yes, they won't be gushing at you at first, but you will become an acquired taste.

This is when you realise, it is a problem only if you make it a problem. 50% of the issue is in your head and how you carry yourself. Addressing the optics is just there to decrease the barriers to entry.

So stop being a bitch worrying about whether the opposite sex will like it or not. Ask yourself if this is part of who you are. The upside of "such a handicap" is that it helps you develop your frame in becoming oblivious to women's opinions on your looks overall, which is a turn on for women, because confidence asserts itself in spite of positive reinforcement, not thanks to it.