A friend invited me to an incel space on X.

Being incel sympathetic and having a black pill leaning, I wanted to help.

The lesson I learned is not to help people who don’t want any help.

Did it make me less incel sympathetic? Yes.

Why?

The subject was about socialmaxxxing. How can you improve your social skills to get out of your loneliness rut?

When you interact with guys, your looks don’t matter as much. I mean, hell, they don’t wanna fuck you, nor do you wanna fuck them.

The problem with incels is the same as with politically indoctrinated individuals, where there is no truth outside of their tunnel vision.

Yes, you may have had bad experiences, especially with women, and their superficiality, lack of depth or false empathy.

Whereas guys are generally more empathetic.

The victim mindset was polluting their vision to the point that they did not want to seek a solution or try a different way. They just wanted to whine.

It was about validating their circle jerking and ready-made worldview.

We were discussing the importance of forming friendships and building a professional network. They never operated from what value they would bring, but what value they would take.

There was little introspection and only finding excuses. They were reinforcing their views through the validation of others.

There were some people making efforts, though. That was the silver lining.

They had a misguided sense of entitlement, as they wanted everything without putting in any effort. The typical mentality of takers, who wish to take without giving back, can make people unpleasant to be around over a long enough timeline.

The crutch of looks, even though it holds validity for women, has little to no value for guys if you can bring something else to the table, whether it is fun, intelligence, or general good vibes.

The idea of VIBE was utterly foreign to them.

I mean, it’s easy to say they had no positive vibes whatsoever.

Isn’t it ironic that people who don’t believe in the idea of vibing, saying how fake “ethical posturing” is, while their social positioning on the matter only validates how crucial having a good vibe is, as they were vibing with one another on how shit the situation was for them

Being a miserable French cunt sometimes, I personally saw a massive contrast in my results from operating in a value-giving VIBE instead of a pity party one.

The difference is:

I was willing to try and see if I would get different outcomes. And I did. I empirically tested ideas, because feedback was more important than the ego validation of always being right.

Whether it was in my social circle or in my dating life, this has been the significant factor that moved the needle.

Whether you are an incel, a normie, or a Chad, I say this:

Do yourself a favour and adopt a positive mindset. You will do your sanity a favour, as well as that of the people around you.

This is not to shit on them. This is a wake-up call.

I am a cynical person by nature, but that doesn’t stop me from wanting to do good around me and make people have a good time. Regardless of the feedback, I will consider it. Do it out of wanting something better for yourself, or even feeling better altogether. There are no wins in feeling like shit and making everyone around you feel the same way.

It is not about people-pleasing; it is about pleasing yourself and inviting positive responses in return without automatically expecting them. You get what you give.

So, if you want to wallow in your own shit, it is on you. Not onto the people around you.

At the end of the day, you may have been given a shit hand, but it is what you make of it.

I am not telling you that you will consistently achieve the top outcomes, but you will get better ones than the ones you are currently experiencing.

It is up to you to choose.

LESSONS:

Create value around you by cultivating positive emotions for yourself and others. The return will not be linear, as there is also a compounding effect; the more you positively impact people, the greater the benefits will be.

Even when I used to Night Game, I would talk to girls and bring them to a group of guys I did not know, sometimes merging sets and enabling people to have fun, which resulted in me networking with the guys in question. I even went on holiday with some of them. I did not expect anything in return, but I was rewarded and experienced things I would never have otherwise.

It is about understanding where you excel, or becoming proficient in an area, and enabling others to enjoy the benefits of it.

I was also exposed to things I had never encountered before. When you become the spearhead of a group because you want to enjoy the moment and include as many people around you in the zone, you create this positive feedback loop, where the outcomes you did not really seek come to you. Funnily enough, because you are so happy with yourself, you may even decline them, because that is not what you were looking for to begin with.

For example, I had a group of girls asking me to join their after-party at one of their flats, but I declined, as I was too tired. I just wanted to enjoy the moment with them and interact spontaneously.

Understand which cards you were dealt and make the most of them. Yes, Chad, or a trust fund baby will benefit more from you without working for it; however, the skills you will get from your original position will make you more interesting as a person, so that people will vibe with you on a deeper level. To appreciate this, you need to look beyond the superficial aspect that you manifest from the same superficial mindset.