If you find yourself in a situation where you can’t get someone off your head, this may help.

Romanticism is only about telling oneself a story between you and the other person. When we feel we are not enough, that person has little to nothing to do to get our mind running. When we are not really sold, more work is needed.

Everyone is telling a story about themselves. Where reality is liquid, and the frame is us mentally shaping a world from our spiritual ether for ourselves. When looking for someone to partner with, the frames must fit within one another.

“I want that person to complete me.”

The nature of that saying is accepting that one’s reality is incomplete without the other person’s essence you have defined in your mind filling up the frame you have and theirs within yours. Romanticism is the way how that frame is being filled.

The storytelling we hear is necessary to create that seductive energy. It is not only how you verbally tell your story to the other person but also how the other person sees it and, more importantly, how it looks overall in the “us” framework, where both eyes can see both frames being filled.

The more the frame is filled, the heavier the investment both people have for one another. The water flow is the calibration of the emotional charge communicated by one another.

What enables a person to be open to it are the prompts that resonate within their heads.

With women, we know familiar tropes:

“I want to fix him.”

“I will change his ways.”

With men:

“I want her soul.”

“I want to be appreciated for who I am.”

When someone triggers these feelings within the other person, they open up. Eventually, seduction is about narrating a story into the other person’s head about how the association with you make them feel better about themselves because there is that lack existing within their head or one you created that they don’t know existed.

It enables people to lie to themselves better about a reality in which they are not content. That frame in the liquid world they created is to forget better that the world is liquid, and nothing really matters than the story we tell ourselves to make sense of our own reality and purpose.

Romanticism helps us give ourselves more meaning, that we matter more than we believe. Guys are more prone to it than women, where less love is generally given to them, but when it is given, it is more valued. Even the process of being romantic in seduction works under the logic of transactions. Where one leads with gestures to trigger a return for services rendered to the other person and where the flow of good feelings is the incentive for the original gestures.

This helps us narrate a story in our head, filling our frame with the necessary water to make it whole. The other person’s frame within the original frame is also there, but it is transparent because it is the feeling of receiving despite the first act of giving that matters.

When the romance fritters away, there is a leak within both frames, and the water slowly drips away, leaving both of them empty. The illusion of what first was an oasis of good feelings for one another becomes a dessert, creating resentment. Respect turns into contempt, lust turns into dust, and euphoria turns into nostalgia.

The image one creates in one’s head turns itself into the illusion it originally was, morphing into the liquid background of both people's respective frames.

If you considered a person of your past who had a specific meaning to you, understand it is because you gave that person power as a co-director of your story, as it would shine a brighter light on you. The romanticism that cemented the story of you two and made what was more relevant and vital to you is only the work of your mind driven by your sensitivities of the time.

Your mind is the liquid, and frames are as strong as you want them to be. You are in charge of keeping your now empty frame living inside the other person’s. For your limerence to evaporate, these frames must, too, go back to the liquid form where they came from.

Feeding these now broken frames with the liquid of your mind only allows them to exist whilst never being filled due to the original fissure, which led to the eventual emptying.

It is time to let go and accept the frames for what they are. Disparate small pieces that will eventually dilute themselves to their original state and become the original liquid of your mind… with time.

As you have built the frames for yourself, water them down until they disappear, and so do the feelings associated with them… for yourself.