If she doesn't see you as a Chad when you first start dating, you're only going to give yourself more trouble when it comes to getting that relationship and keeping her.

Yes, you are not going to be a Chad for 95 %+ of girls as a non-Chad. The upside to this is that it will make it easier to determine who should receive your commitment and who should not.

Some girls will find some of your quirks endearing to the point that they will see you as one, even though you are not part of the top 5% for the vast majority of girls (especially if you are part of her Niche or Archetype).

Ultimately, you want a girl who vibes with your strengths and ignores or champions your weaknesses. What do I mean by the latter? It is girls who would find something that you do, which other women would find “icky”, as something she does not care about, or something she finds amusing, cute, charming…

A lot of insecure guys will actually punish girls who display a lot of positive traits to be a girlfriend by assuming women do it with everyone else. This is a telltale sign of low self-esteem, as they do not feel worthy of it, subconsciously communicating that they are not accustomed to receiving it. It can be the case, but if you discard these girls automatically, you will only reward the ones who find you “meh” because you are too worried about what she did with others rather than whether you get your cup filled.

This is the definition of playing not to lose, and it is a very feminine trait to be on the defensive, alongside the poor view they have of themselves, which you would share by adopting such a policy.

Here are some indicators to help you segment the girls who view you as a Chad.

13 SIGNS OF CHAD :

1) She makes herself available for you even at short notice.

2) She will flake on her friends for you.

3) She will give you many compliments.

4) She will be anxious about other girls liking you and trying to seduce you, and she will mention it to you. If a girl needs to see you with other girls to believe you are a Chad, it's because she didn't assume that was the case—a significant difference between the two.

5) She will simp for you.

6) She will want to pay for things for you; that is the most objective evidence she is investing in you.

7) She will be texting you often and trying to see you more than once a week.

8) She will be enthusiastic in bed when she doesn’t make herself available for it soon enough or lead the way to it.

9) She laughs at your lame jokes.

10) She interprets anything you say as good or excellent, even if it is downright hostile.

11) She has that gaze in her eyes when she looks at you.

12) She only assumes the positive about you (Halo Effect).

13) She will be highly compliant with your suggestions from the get-go.

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Some of you will find the above annoying because she will be too much in your hair, granted.

However, this is not as bad as a girl who will give you the time of day only when it is convenient for her.

All of the above are signs. She does not have to do every one of them.

If you want to be autistic about how many to look for, you will be fine with half of the above. Otherwise, it is about that sensation: “Everything feels easy with her” (yes, because it is not emotionally that making it difficult for you is the default option, lol)

Even though you are not Chad, as you don’t get 100 likes + on OLD as a new profile within 48 hours, when a girl likes you, she will assume that other girls do as well.

The mistake is telling her otherwise. It is not because she sees you as one that you cannot downgrade. If she does not see you as one, unlike some copium guys will say, you can’t upgrade yourself as one. First impressions cannot be shaken off from the bottom, but are easier to lose from the top.

If she does not see you as one, she will resent you going forward, as she will feel like she is settling, and you run the risk of being a placeholder boyfriend since she already had a Chad before and knows the difference.

This is less about ego than avoiding unnecessary issues down the line, such as when you buy good-quality Bluetooth headphones versus those made in China by an unknown brand with a lifespan of 6 to 18 months, rather than opting for the good-quality ones.