How I came across the Black Pill was when I was looking for answers as to what I could not understand, as I was a heavily reliant Game guy, to begin with.

The concept of Chads was illustrated by 3 guys who, before I knew of the idea itself.

One of them could get away with the cringiest shit on text I ever saw, which I know would get me nexted instantly.

Another one was a guy I was going out with, and even though he did not have bad Game per se, he never had to learn it. What you would say is that he was a natural. The stuff he was showing on apps and in real life was mind-boggling.

The Third one was literally getting pussy like a Takeaway from dating apps.

But what I saw was utterly new to what I had previously been exposed to.

Chads and Tyrones have a broad appeal. You must appeal to a specific niche when you're not one yourself.

Looking back at my previous conquests and the ones I was still in touch with, I had confirmation that half of the Game was meeting their types or preferences in a guy. I often qualified them, learning where they came from due to my naturally curious proclivity. Looking at their previous boyfriends or situationships, or the places I went to, for example.

This got me in the Rabbit Hole of the Black Pill to the point I did not think Game mattered at all, as everything was already decided within the first seconds she met me.

It was basically: if you fit her type, thanks to the Halo Effect, Game is about just not fucking up. It is not entirely wrong, but I outweighed that aspect.

Whether it is Red Pill or Black Pill:

You can't negotiate genuine desire.

And it is something I agree with. Game is just there to enhance it at best. Or turn low to mid-interest girls into lays.

The problem with most men is that they don't know how to market themselves outwardly (hygiene, style, grooming) or through nonverbal communication (confidence, self-esteem).

The Black Pill thinks the former is all that matters. Yes, it surely does help.

But I know I have been with girls, and I did not qualify from the looks perspective, and I was not their type. However, I overlooked that because, in most cases, the Black Pill answered my questions.

It made me much lazier in dealing with girls, so I forgot about the positive experiences. If she made it easier for him. Why should I work harder?

I opportunistically forgot that the first guy I mentioned above was utterly useless in real life, whereas on apps, he would completely annihilate me.

The Black Pill restored my perspective on how little I had viewed looks in the past as a decisive factor, considering it an irrelevant variable. The data from apps and personal experience was startling and validated the idea of the Black pill.

My personal estimate is that with good Game, you will increase your perceived Looks SMV from the Girl POV by 1 to 2 points because confidence and reality shifting can make her see you in a better light.

But with shit Game, you may as well be a sub-5.

One of the most pernicious aspects of the Black Pill is that you can't overcome some of the limitations you have over which you don't have control.

Making you think you are only as good as your genetics.

That will also impact your self-worth because it will draw what you think of yourself only through other people's eyes and what you were born with, not the personality you built, which can sway some girls towards you. More importantly, when you are in a relationship, your looks alone won't cut it on a long enough timeline.

It is not about denying reality. It's about accepting that you will perform better in some markets than others. You are just in the wrong one if you are not getting the right results once your marketing is optimised. From it, your reality will only be negative.

Use this knowledge to your benefit. The idea of Archetypes and Niches came from there, and you can see these articles on my Substack.

The other good side of the black pill is that it will actually make you conscious that LOOKS definitely matter vs what women say (confidence and personality, which they assume about Chad but not you, so you have to display it because they don't assume your shit smells like lavender).

Confidence and personality do matter. I learned it at my expense when I did not want to bother with it anymore when I thought it was looks alone, thanks to my natural laziness of looking for quick results with the least effort.

For those 6 to 9 months, I was more or less a Black Piller, and my results had shrunk by easily 60-70%. Because if you are not a Chad, your effort to show that you are actually worth a damn will have to be demonstrated.

When I rewired my brain, I was back to the usual numbers.

Lessons:

For long-term purposes, it is essential to appreciate that it is better to be with a woman who sees you as a Chad rather than someone you feel you have to win over constantly.

Another thing to appreciate is if you are not the typical Chad to that specific girl, go for girls who you are their type. You will be more relevant than the stereotypical Chad because you resonate deeper with her with how she views herself and who she associates with, which will help with her behaviour towards you.

Game is helpful to improve intersocial dynamics and calibration efforts, but you don't want to be with someone where you are constantly walking on eggshells because she was not convinced of you from the beginning. This will be prevalent in the relationship with an increased tendency to shit-test you. If you want something short-term, you don't need to care that much beyond the rules of engagement that will come from where she sees you (work harder if you are not her type or Chad to her).

This is where some PUAs and Game Guys who swear by it can fall for the trap, thinking that the harder she is, the higher the quality by assuming that her behaviour towards them is a constant when women actually discriminate. It is, in essence, a very feminine-driven mindset in intergender dynamics.

It is what women fall for, where one gets bored too easily because they are used to having guys down for them with no challenges, which is not worth it. It makes sense for them to think as such because they have to look up to the man. If we function under that same logic, this is the road to pedestalisation. Let me tell you, it is no fun, despite the initial feeling of being "alive" whenever we draw validation from being with her because she is the best of what we could do. She will feel it, and she never wants to be your best, no matter what she says. She loves the drama from the competition anxiety that she is never your best.

By overcomplicating through micromanaging communication, we forget the logic behind human interactions that flow and vibe happen naturally due to the predisposition arising from the original prejudice one has towards another from the visual cognitive biases. We miss the bigger picture: association occurs naturally, not through manufacturing.

What The PUA and Game Guys have got right, though, is that it is crucial to be aware of the relevance of communication as that will put you in a good position once you are in a relationship.

Nevertheless, life is as simple as you make it be. Don't invite long-term problems that won't make you more money but create more headaches. There is no validation worth the issues that will arise from it later down the line or the mental bandwidth it will tax you. It will also set you in the woman's frame, which you don't want. The only thing women know how to lead is the road to failure, and so will your relationship.

In reality, the girl right for you is the one who you will have to perform the less Game and address the least number of Shit-Tests. Don't believe otherwise unless you want to welcome abuse from her subconscious dissatisfaction of not being with what she deems her best option or close enough to it.

Know your lane and understand you want to start in the best one when choosing your long-term options. Game will help you segment who is who and how little or not you will need to apply based on where both of you place one another.

The right girl for you will appreciate your physical imperfections as a plus rather than a minus, so embrace them when you cannot change them. Ultimately, it is our imperfections that make us truly human.

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