French OG
May 9, 2025
Due to a bad experience, many people project their past bad experiences onto someone who has no responsibility for them, yet will pay the price should they decide to. I don’t. Some may ask: “Why did you not do as the woman suggested?” The same people would end up in a henpecked relationship because they have standards for themselves. This is something both genders do. However, this fear pushes them further away from the outcome they seek to reach. They are playing to avoid losing rather than winning.Playing to avoid losing is just postponing the fear rather than eradicating it, whilst giving oneself the illusion of control, through a negative self-feeding, confirmatory bias loop of manifesting the bad outcomes they were trying to avoid. Still, they created them out of fear-driven actions.Below is a perfect example of someone who started the interaction with me in one of the most charming ways on Bumble. She had an excellent game. We exchanged numbers to switch to WhatsApp. This is when we were sorting the logistics of the date, and things started to take an interesting turn.
I suggested a place close to mine, and not too far away from where she was, but she decided to counter-offer (first red flag).
As she had been quite chill before and we had a good laugh, I decided to overlook that first red flag, give her the benefit of the doubt, and let her know about it. I jokingly admit I don’t negotiate with terrorists after I decided to “fold” out of good faith on the location because I enjoyed the interaction…so far.
Having said that her “handsome” was really starting to annoy me, as I repeatedly see women opportunistically using that word to coax men to do their bidding (most guys will think it is a compliment, the only thing they are missing it is a backhanded one, because if she thought you were that guy she would not fuck about like she did above, and women use that more as a manipulation tool than anything else - if she calls you “hot” you are in a much better position).
”Handsome” is another way to say to a guy, “You are about alright; I can see myself with you. " You are not offensive-looking, but you are nothing to write home about.” But guys will think it is a compliment, little do they know.
Then she asks about the IG, my profile being clean on Bumble and verified, I need to now go through the IG check as if I am going through TSA, when it is just her way to run your profile to the board of bitches to get the green light.
All of the goodwill points she had gained were slowly vanishing. I warned her, “Don’t push it.”
I offered my real name for her to Google search and have confirmation to say I was who I was out of good faith, and decided to leave it there.
She tried to amuse me into giving it when I told her no; it was only for my close network, yet she would not listen.
Then came the “I am the prize” behaviour and grandstanding, which was completely unnecessary, “indulge me” and “win me over”; she even suggested that she would stand me up if she did not have that ID check. This girl must be running the KYC Operation in her company.She also thought she was being cute by being confrontational, using my exact words (“don’t push it”), when she was annoying. The more she talked, the more she was digging herself a grave. Things could have been seamless, but by then, I had lost 80% interest in meeting her, despite all the good stuff she showed before going on WhatsApp. She had great banter before that, hard to believe reading this, I know.
The unnecessary posturing: " Our evening plans are halted.” You could see she enjoyed running the show and calling the shots. At that point, the remaining 20% were gone, and I thought to myself, “Thank you; I don’t have to do the dirty job,” with my thumbs up to her message.
It wasn’t until 8 hours later that she returned and wanted to meet. I entertained her to see what she would say; there was a small window of opportunity. Let’s say it went back to 20% of me meeting her. I know I should not give people a second chance because they rarely show me a different image, but my patience and benevolence got the best of me on this one.
I deliberately ignored her stupidity with her IG suggestion. Still, she was the one to remind me how socially unaware she was, trying to overturn a reality where she was chasing me and making demands of me as soon as I showed openness. This is another example of women equating kindness with weakness. It is not because someone is willing to entertain you that they will say yes to all your demands; however, women love to chance it.I gave her a final warning: “Let’s not make it harder than it needs to be.”This was obviously not heard. This is when I took things personally and saw how a lesson could be learned from her.I then decided to be warmer towards her and play to her ego by praising her original charm in response to her previous message.She decides on one last power play move, as if not quadrupling down on stupid was not enough. This is when I thought it was the perfect timing to show her an opening to make her feel like she is winning her stupid game.
This is another example of boss babes. As soon as you show some weakness, as one gives away a bit for deal-making (instead of looking at it as goodwill), they seek more of it through their power hunger. I then deflected because I was not having it.
She then forced the “URL” again (as if acting like a bloke was not enough; now, she spoke like one).Interestingly, in the screenshot below, when I led and suggested the meeting, she did not confirm and had to posture again because she was too egotistical to back down a bit on her demands: “Not so fast, mister.” When I confirmed that I was leaving, she gave the thumbs up, not confirming that we were meeting there. This looped back to her alluding that she could stand me up in the original text exchange if she did not get my IG, mirroring my thumbs up to the halted plans. She wanted to make me sweat—another evidence of her ego, where she is playing herself.
The reality is I did not leave. She made the interaction as confrontational and annoying as she could, thinking that was cute. I warned her a couple of times, but she did not listen. I told her I was willing to take risks and was being kind and open, but she decided not to heed the warnings, confusing absence of proof for proof of absence. Now she had the real proof, but missed out on the guy she was supposed to meet. Behaving in such a way only invites people who have trust issues. This is how you attract who you are. The energy you display deters people who don’t have your problems when dealing with you.She would have met me had she acted in good faith, but her bad faith only manifested the outcome she did not want. She wanted to see me and her following up let me know how horny she was to meet on the same day, but this did nothing to me as how one engages before a meet up, is as essential as the meet up or even the follow-up to meet up.Only 40 minutes later, I received another text.
