In the Self-Improvement space, they always discuss "finding your purpose".

But are they providing you the tools to find it?

In an environment where influential political ideologies have tainted spirituality in the usual places, such as the Church, when it is not pop culture through astrology, where do you go to find your actual meaning?

So, what do you need to do to find your actual Purpose?

Where do you actually seek an authentic meaning to your presence on Earth?

All are linked.

One of the most common issues among guys today is that they seek solace through women. They will try to get a girlfriend or look at spinning plates if they believe they have a shot. If they don't, they will seek confirmation in other spaces and satisfy themselves with the little they think they can aspire to.

Both personas will suffer from an inner monologue at some point. If there is a level of contentment on the surface, there is a sense of void underneath, and they feel they have not accomplished what they subconsciously aspire to.

Now, what about the solutions?

Finding Your Purpose and Meaning

Purpose is about finding something you are deeply interested in, where motivation is not a prerequisite for you to act.

You have this sense of mission that you want to achieve for personal gratification, but ideally, where positive externalities are coming out of it, whether it would be for your close ones if you were to be successful or in the broader spectrum when it comes to the community of individuals.

When you wake up, it is the first thing you think about, and it will guide your next moves.

You go back to bed, look forward to the next day, and apply what you did not have time to do on the prior day for you to complete.

You will want to improve your craft, but you will produce instead of overthinking and faffing about. You will constantly move, improve, and invest, and whatever is outside of it will become secondary. You will be in your tunnel vision.

To many people, they will find that structure and journey through their work. For the most ambitious, they will take on what they learned on their job and create their own company.

The less successful will have to think outside the box, as their job or career framework does not suit their personality type or aspirations.

They will have to use their creativity in their future endeavours and in monetising and structuring them.

When it comes to that category, as they have not made the most of the situation they found themselves in, as in the work they started developing, their knowledge is not meaningful to pursue further. They will have to ask themselves these questions:

1) What am I passionate about?

2) What would I do where I don't mind pursuing for months, if not years, without results?

3) What is one thing where I am head and shoulders above my competition? Or what are my personal characteristics that give me a competitive advantage that I can leverage?

4) If I am unsuccessful, would this have been a waste of time?

5) Do I need motivation for me to attend to it?

You need to have self-belief to stay consistent through failures, hurdles, and curve balls; eventually, it will pay off.

There is this massive dilemma when it comes to where someone should be heading, which is:

Should I be doing what I am good at?

Or

Should I be doing what I am passionate about?

It may seem like a mutually exclusive choice, but it does not have to be.

There are good chances that you will become passionate about what you are eventually good at. Without passion, you can't aspire to be the best or close to the best in your field, which is what you should aspire to whichever endeavour you decide upon taking.

And what you are passionate about, odds are you are more likely to be above average.

Passion is good because it will drive you to be better, be committed to the cause and increase your chances of monetising the fruit of your labour.

One caveat is that success is not guaranteed, and the path on your journey can be tricky, especially if it is long.

You have to be fine with the idea that you may never reach the goal you have set yourself, but you enjoyed the work regardless. The destination is the cherry on the cake.

This will not make you more resilient in the process, but counter-intuitively enough, it will increase the chance of success. Outcome independence and letting go have an attraction force as if you manifest the end goal.

Have you ever realised you always get what you don't want? Why?

Because you already feel entitled to it, you don't need to chase it explicitly. For some reason, it comes despite it. Entitlement is just you outwardly conveying that you already have what you don't, sub-communicating that you could pick it up should you choose.

Manifestation without work is wishful thinking.

Manifestation is a byproduct of the work you put in, the randomness of encounters and outcomes, and the general energy emanating from the feeling of partial achievements you have developed through your work so far.

But what about Meaning?

We have mainly discussed Purpose, how it manifests in daily life, how to find and pursue it, and what you will experience.

The outcome is a roll of the dice. Success could even come after your death, like Charles Bukowski. Life can be ironic. You should be okay with it.

Meaning is just the knock-on effect of you following your mission, where your whole self goes beyond what makes the physical you.

It is more of an esoteric concept. When we talk about energy, vibe, charisma, gravitas, and presence, these are just the external communication of something much deeper inside you where you have found yourself from the work on yourself you have performed and what it stands for.

Where you don't doubt yourself as much, you have developed a sense of certainty, satisfaction, and vision of and about yourself.

Think of what you can do to improve yourself before considering what society / the West / the Government should be doing. It is individualistic but necessary, as you are on your own as a man. No one is going to save you.

It does not make you materialistic, selfish, or lacking spirituality.

Adam Smith wrote this in The Wealth of Nations, where our individual need to fulfil self-interest results in social benefit.

When people lack direction, it is great for the power that be, as choices are made on their behalf; not deciding to take action plays into other powerful hands, tracing the journey that would have supposedly been yours.

People who are too risk-averse or afraid of failure miss out on it:

Not making a choice does not mean you avoid making a mistake. Not making a choice is a choice in itself. Don't believe you won't be accountable for the resulting outcomes; you just outsourced your destiny to the luck of the draw, but more likely than not, you will be drawing dead.

You have everything to gain by taking the plunge.

1) Answer the above questions

2) Take the resulting actions

3) Be too dumb/passionate to quit

4) Discover and reinforce your identity

5) Discover your underlying blossoming energy

6) Remember that whatever happens happens

7) Forget about the destination; focus on the journey

8) You will find your identity, your confidence, your meaning

9) Don't let other people talk you out of it

I have these last 2 questions for you:

1) If you look back at your life when Judgment Day comes, can you say you were proud of what you have accomplished?

2) Did you live it on your own terms or at least tried with the hands you were dealt?

Everyone has unique characteristics about themselves that can make outstanding contributions to society as a whole. It is for them as individuals to find what it is and make the most of it.

If you are a parent, and you have some means, try to see where your kids are strong in or are passionate about, quadruple on it so that they can have a head start and start their journey early and foster self-belief in him, rather than only focusing on them becoming the good parrot school and the university system teach them to be.

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