1. Thinking about her harder won't get you closer to getting her. You reinforce the illusion, pushing her further away when an opening occurs. Overthinking takes charge, and your energy will be that of a beggar... not conducive to attraction or respect.

2. It is the surest way to fumble about the girl because you will do the opposite of what you should do. Why? Because you behave like a bitch, not willing to take risks, and act like you have a pair of balls missing. The fear of loss is at its apex, making you her toy to play with.

3. You have all the power you don't know you have. You feel helpless because you gave it all to her, like that guy who undressed in winter and shivered because of the cold. Now pick up your clothes and get warm again. She is not responsible for your infatuation towards her.

4. You confirmed to her you were a little bitch the moment she noticed you were that guy looking for his princess, so take the L and remember the past is the past, positive or negative, so there is no point in dwelling on it. What matters is what you do now.

5. Accept that for you to have a successful LTR with a woman who follows your leadership, you must consider her like your slave. You don't particularly like her; she likes you for that reason. Having a relationship is a responsibility, not some Disney Fantasy.

6. It is the woman's job to make you stray away from that reality, so leave the burden on her to sell you the dream of a relationship with her. Doing less and not worrying about how much of a good guy you are with whom she should get with, will get you more results than qualifying for her.

7. I am not the guy who will give you BS advice, spin plates, or do other quick-fix nonsense because if you have a strong OneItIs, this will not remove it; it will most likely anchor it. You are chasing something internal with something external. So, it is about addressing the internal part through deep inventorying.

8. You will not move beyond this until you address the main issue: your lack of self-appreciation. You believe being associated with her will overshadow all the other areas of your life that you are unsatisfied with, but she mirrors what's wrong with you.

9. Her role is not to make up for materialistic or mental deficiencies. Take a cold, hard look at what you are unhappy about yourself and your life and write it in your journal. You don't even realise you don't respect yourself, so how can you expect her to do the same?

10. Using that experience to make an inventory of what you are deeply dissatisfied with and looking at ways to address it will relieve you of the burden you put on her that she did not, rightly so, want to bear. Use that journal to dump your undisclosed feelings and desires.

11. Choose activities that resolve the most crucial weakness areas (weight, mental strength, poor financials, etc.) and allow yourself a reward mechanism at specific intervals for following a routine that will make you stronger (e.g. a massage after five days at the gym).

12. You are creating an internal loop of satisfaction, in which you become self-reliant and don't look for an external source of validation to feel more "alive." Whenever she feels you are too reliant on her in a relationship, she will punish you, so learn to be self-reliant.

13. Kind reminders:

=> Oneitis is you deriving your self-esteem from her approval.

=> Your "princess" is some other guys' cum bucket where you are begging to sip their semen residue.

=> Other guys "worked" less for her, so why should you work more?

=> She doesn't like you for you; she only likes the representation of you.

=> She's a whore to the right bidder.

=> You are a workhorse who should feel lucky you provide for her…

And you want to reward that with adulation? She's right to shit on you.

Conclusion: You may think, what is the point of bothering with all of this? The bittersweet aspect is that when she feels you could not give a fuck about her anymore that she will make herself available to you again.

And then you will realise how much of a dumb ass you were, and you're not going to entertain her again. Partly because you have moved on, having done the work, partly because you realise she was never that special, and finally, it's a reminiscence of your past self that you'd rather leave there.

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