I have yet to publish my views towards Shit-Tests, as it is widely misunderstood. A lot of people consider flirts as shit-tests when they feel challenged, or conversely, shit-tests as flirts.

Flirts are aimed at making you win => Good Faith
Shit-Tests are aimed at making you lose => Bad Faith

If you are on a date, would it not be a waste of each other's time to try to set up bombs, look for issues, and appreciate the wins instead?

If one vouches for it, they have narcissistic tendencies or are looking to get drunk off power. This is rarely a good dynamic, especially on the woman's side, to develop a good dynamic between individuals, as goodwill and trust must be built to create a bond.

Unlike many people here, once something is considered a shit-test (and not a flirt), one should not entertain it, as it validates someone talking negatively about you, either because they are of bad faith or they get enjoyment out of trying to put someone down, and have them qualify to them indirectly in showing they are worthy of them.

More importantly, girls into you won’t shit-test you in the early dating phase if you don’t screw up, the others who will need convincing because they are not sold on you. If you want only to smash, you can entertain them, but if you seek something more, that should be something that makes you discard a woman, if it was not prompted by a weakness you displayed.

Beyond the lines, you need to assess the energy coming from them, which is generally described by the tone and body language.

How to respond to them can be divided into four categories:

- Misinterpret positively what she says

- Agree and Amplify

- Ignore
- Reverse Shit-Test them through a Shit-Test based on what they say when you turn defence into attack.

One usually makes the mistake of showing defensiveness if he wishes to “pass the shit-test”, as he took it personally, which in effect validates the frame set by the other person. Many Masculine Accounts, and other alpha wannabees, fall into that trap, thinking that saying the opposite confirms what they state.

So here, I divided into Flirts and Shit-Tests based on the lines themselves, without the energy and context behind them, as some of these lines could move from one category to another, depending on these two factors.

The woman is in the first line.
The man is in the second line.

SHIT-TESTS

1) “You need to do more to win me over.”

“Effort is only proportional to personality”

Here, she wants you to qualify more and bend over to her needs. If she wants to see you have a backbone, she will appreciate that you can stand for yourself. Otherwise, she will bounce, as you are not manipulable.

2) “Are you trying to impress me?”

“Is that even a requirement?”

Here, she is trying to shoot you down with a double blow: the first one calls you out for feeling below her because you wanted to impress her too overtly, or she preaches the false to get to the truth, and the second one tells you it is not enough even when you tried doing so.
The mistake would be to approve that frame, as this would make you qualify to her, and solidify your position below hers, which she won’t respect, yet what she tried to establish with the shit-test. By reframing it as above, you show her she has misinterpreted what you were doing.

3) “You act like you are some prize.”

“I am sure there is a participation trophy somewhere for you.”

Here, she is communicating that you don’t qualify to behave in such a way. Generally, when you have been confident enough to act beyond her expectations, the mistake here would be to back down, seeking her approval. Depending on her tone, the delivery will differ. If she is dismissive, that falls within the shit-test category; you can respond dismissively. If she is playful, saying this would be more playful.

4) “Who hurt you?”

“I am a Scorpio, you tell me.”

The most bad-faith question you can find. It is aimed at triggering a negative response from you, it is less about what you say, then how pissed off you are going to be with the response. In the same way, energy dictates where she is coming from, energy will dictate where you are coming from, so being detached, and misinterpret it, whilst low-key denigrating her as some horoscope junkie in the response, provides the dodging and sneak diss at the same time, keeping the frame and making her look like a fool.

5) “I don’t chase men.”

“Said every woman at the IVF clinic.”

She wants you to chase her, but she will lose attraction to you when she feels you are doing that. So, this is an enticement for you to qualify for her and seek her validation because chasing is essentially that.

Here, you are not going to argue with her. You can exchange “men” with “you.” By doing so, you show that it does not matter to her what she does with men or with you and say you are happy with her choices, whilst giving a reality check, that you won’t take her shit.

FLIRTS

1) “Why are you single?”

“Are you not worth the wait?”

Depending on the context, it could be either a shit-test or a flirt. If you have wooed her and she asks this, it is more a matter of “how come you have not been snagged up yet, because I like you a lot.”
Otherwise, it is more tantamount to why I should consider someone no one has decided would be worth their time.

Most guys will fall into the trap of qualifying themselves to low-key seek her approval, when you should reward her flirting with you (if she is sending the right energy) by suggesting she looks worth being single for. It is about her, not about you. I use the same logic when I reverse shit-test them when I look to put them back in their place.

2) “You are so full of yourself.”

“Where else are you going to get filled up?”

Here, many people will consider that a shit-test. Still, it is her technically saying you are making her wet, but accusing you (because you know it is always your fault), so here you are, lowkey acknowledging the effect, with the sexual innuendo using the frame she gave you.

As with many situations, when a woman challenges you, you must double down to show your backbone; many guys defend themselves because they seek her approval. Don’t make the mistake.

3) “You must be trouble.”

“Can you handle it?”

This is a flirty line; she acknowledges that she is attracted to you, so you playfully invite her to take on the challenge of wooing you. This is when you operate the reframe of the seller-to-buyer dynamic, turning it into the buyer-to-seller dynamic. You gently play with her ego to your benefit.

4) "Are you always this charming?”

“Only when I have good company.”

Here, she rewards you with positive feedback, so instead of going on an ego trip to your benefit, it is about appreciating what she says and bringing her up with you to create a positive feedback loop. This also indirectly makes her understand that this may change if she behaves the wrong way.

5) “You’re kind of cute. Don’t let it go to your head."

“Which head are you talking about?”

Depending on tone and body language, it could also be considered a shit-test. As it is a mixed message, I will use it a misinterpretation with a sexual undertone for it to be interpreted as me not listening to what she says conveying that I don’t care about her approval, but should she let go of her subcommunicated “I am the prize” frame, things could get more fun.

Side note: You will notice I use a lot of questions in my responses. This is a way for you to take control of the conversation.

If you want more lines, you can follow my IG Page, where I post new lines daily. This way, you have something to refer back to whenever you are in these situations.